Saturday, May 30, 2009

Shavuot and Daddy's Birthday


Magnificent festival of first fruits at Kibbutz Beit Alfa. We could feel the original kibbutz dream, still alive for a moment. And truly, waking up to the murmur of a thousand doves and breeze through trees this morning, I know that Kibbutz is still Kibbutz, and I love it. For my Daddy's birthday, we returned to the fish restaurant on the shores of the Sea of Galilee, where Daddy kissed Mommy as if they were new young lovers. I reprint here, my memories of our time in Israel with Mommy and Daddy. After a year of beautiful guests and tours, we realize that this is what we do here, and have now gone commercial. We have five families in a row, for the rest of the summer, to experience our pretty Netanya home and our Israel.
Dayenu
Just the first twinkle view
Of Daddy and Mommy
Cute off the plane,
That hug that telescoped time
And made distance
No-distance
That first happy hug
Would have been enough

Kissing is niiiiiiiiice!

What fun! As if they were no miles, no kilometers, no ocean between us at all, ever, we sat down happily to candles and wine and challah, could just about hear the SHRED harmonies chiming in on the motzi. Mommy and Daddy are fabulous, arrived energetic and ready for fun. Supper was outside in the garden, beside the mango trees, the lemon tree, the orange tree and the kumquat tree. A very brief visit to the sea for Daddy, more tomorrow. Love you all. **************************************************

Waves at night
More sound than sight
Sweet dark chocolate saved for morning,
Inviting us to sleep well
And wake up to delights.
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One juicy slurp of mango
Deep, intense, sweet.
“If I’m dreaming”, sighs Daddy,
“Don’t wake me up”.

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Mommy Resonance
The dishcloth she knit for me
Matches the greenapple green
Of my kitchen.
We are never far
From each other’s sweet gaze.

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Too many steps
are good for us:
Good practice
for walking on 3.

This is a lovely
time of our life.

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When there is no time line

Any number of steps

is possible.

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Holding hands with my Mommy,
her hand small, sweet,
we ventured into the waves.
Who is the grownup?

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Mommy has felt the salt waves,
The firm sand,
sun,
Now Daddy’s turn.

What synchronicities,
What new old friends
will she find on the beach?

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Daddy and Nomi,

Hand in hand

In waves.

A one-time dizzymoment

Reminds me of fragility,

But fragility is not scary.

“This time it’s on purpose”,

He assures me,

darts underwater,

and up again.

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Shaking jolly seawater

From our bodies,

We come back to Mommy.

Look!

She is eating clementines

With a man who knows Alex Jadad.

Dear Nomi,

It was fantastic to meet you and your glorious family today.
I was a little bit slow and even forgot to say you
"Shana Tova!" and "Moadim l'Simcha!"

The warm regards to Yaacov and your parents. Hope to keep in touch!

All the best, Michael.
--
Michael Shmoish, PhD
Bioinformatics Knowledge Unit, Head
The Lorry I. Lokey Interdisciplinary
Center for Life Sciences and Engineering
Technion - Israel Institute of Technology
Haifa 32000, ISRAEL

Web: http://bku.technion.ac.il/

Miracles and morphic resonance

Are here

For those

Who clear a space for them

Friday, October 10: breezed through gracefully, with no apparent security at Ben Gurion, home to Netanya with Beno and Nomi, stopping to see nighttime waves. Shabbat dinner outside midst the young mango trees.



Saturday, October 11: Beach. Visit to Ruthy and Gitai Yahel in Kfar Vitkin. Mommy brought Canadian presents to the kids, and little Carmel loved playing with a paddleball decorated with Canadian flag. The boys did Capoera demos.



Sunday, October 12: Yossi Bar came, we looked at Staszow photoes.





Daddy’s hands

Grasping earth, grass,

A square of loam,

He jokes (or not)

About connection to this land.



Monday: To market to buy 2 turkeys and many vegetables. Shmuel Reis came to talk about the new medical school: unreal yet, so still with perfect ideals. They will embrace uncertainty.

The only medical school

That has not dropped a stitch

From its perfect ideals

Is Shmuel’s medical school:

As yet unopened.



“School Shmuel”, says Beno



Adam came home, and Shachar.



Tuesday, October 14. 60 relatives from Staszow, for a feast and party.



60 Wolbromskis and more

Feasting together.

The best triumph

Over history and entropy.

We’re here! We’re here!

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The name Wolbromski

Is alive and well

And living in Netanya. Go Know.

“Gei Veis”, says Daddy.

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Wolbromski was once

An old name

Not forgotten

But not in use.

Now, present Wolbromskis fill my house

With the prettiest of green houseplants

And,

Here and now,

Flowers.

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Mommy’s not forgotten Yiddish

Helps her read the maps

And the street signs.

Alef and beis

Have come home.

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Daddy hears this and quips, “You gotta say ‘Alef is on first Beis”.

“Oyo oy oy” groans Mommy.

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Each trip

Is preparation for the next one.

If street signs in Hebrew

Are hard to read

How will we find our way

In Japan ?

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Shabu shabu in Netanya.

Will we find felafel

When we get to Japan ?

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Wednesday, October 15. Jerusalem . Our long journey on foot to the Kotel. Lulav and grateful thoughts at the Kotel. Sunset over Jerusalem .



It takes eight hours to walk from the Jaffa Gate to the Kotel and back. That is, if you observe the ancient Sukkot pilgrimage the way our Mommy and Daddy do, with wonder. with admiration for each stone along the way,

with curiosity,

with some sense of kinship to each fellow traveller along the way, babies in snugglies and strollers, Mommy loving how calm the babies were, how curious too, how connected to their Daddys, just like I am.

Kinship along the way past the old stony walls, the paths worn shiny by millenia of hopeful feet, kinship for the thing we knew before greeting them, that we shared: that we and they were on the way to the kotel. We reminisced about King Solomon, about Herod, the Byzantines, the Ottomans, the British, and we reminisced about Mommy's and Daddy's walk along the top of the ramparts with Dani Bar, when their feet were steadier. But today they're 83 and we walked for 8 wondrous hours to the kotel and back. The crowd of young families, yeshiva buchers in black and white, men in tall fur streimels, tourists from Brazil and Italy and everywhere on this earth thickened but stayed joyful and relaxed as we approached the kotel. When it was time to split into DaddyBeno and MommyNomi we agreed to meet at the tall Israeli flag. When? When we were done. So Mommy and I walked toward the swaying throng of woman, and I suggested Mommy think of what was dear to her, what she felt grateful for. She simply said, "SusieNomiJanieRandy, just like every day. Every morning I walk by the photoes and say SusieNomiJanieRany and if don't, they call me back. SusieNomiJanieRandy." And she talked, by the kotel, about Buby reading the 1943 newspapers about the horrors for her relatives in Staszow, and about the miracle of our party, just yesterday, with the children of Zaidie's surviving sisters and brothers Abchu, Golda, Shimon, Ruchel and Surele, all alive to celebrate Sukkot in Israel. And Mommy and I were done, and sitting under the Israeli flag, watching Daddy and Beno amongst a huge black and white throng of men at the kotel, Beno shaking a lulav. My photo looked like just a nameless crowd of men, until I zoomed in and in and soon there in the picture was my own Daddy and Beno and the lulav. On the way back, sun setting pinkgolden over the city, we walked past many carved stone mikvas from the early days, where people would purify themselves on the way. We met a man in gorgeous robes, the bishop of the Christian Zionist Fellowship in Nigeria. We heard klezmer concerts, an ancient kinor, a round, longnecked stringed instrument played hauntingly by a sweet sheperd, tableaus of children dressed as in the earlier times. A sweet, happy Jerusalem Sukkot with Mommy and Daddy. And then, supper in Shchonat Hatikvah and home to see that even the anemones and colourful fish were dancing Sukkot. Love you all.







Supper in Schonat hatikvah, the huge pitas hot from the stone oven, and liver was the best of the shipudim, sizzled skewers of meat, and so many salads!

Thursday, October 16. Akko , the Templar tunnels and the Turkish baths, and the Ramchal synagogue of Rabbi Luzzato, who had to keep moving from place to place, each time he noticed, to his dismay, that people were starting to believe in him.



The Rabbi, Luzzato

Moved from place to place.

7 places

Because seven times,

What he feared most

Was beginning to happen.

People were starting

To believe in him.

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Friday, October 17:

Beit Alfa, and the wedding high in the hills of Gallilee, a simple windblown chuppa overlooking a valley, and all family.

Windblown chuppa

High in the hills of Galilee

And so many oldlove couples

Pouring blessings to these young two

For old love through

Windblown years.

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What’s the password?

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The password is nice

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Saturday, October 18: On the beach Mommy met Michael Shmoish, who had attended Alex Jadad's lecture at the Technion.

To:

ajadad@gmail.com, enkin@mcmaster.ca







Then we visited Yosef, sang and sipped Turkish coffee with Beno's cousins in Petach Tikvah. Then the old port of Yafo . A barbecue at home with Adam.



From:

"Nomi Kaston"

To:

"Larry Enkin" , "Doug and Susan Boron" , "Enkin Lewis, Jane, Justin, Shlomo & Sunny" , "Eva and Randy" , enkin@mcmaster.ca, yonipagator@gmail.com, ajad@gmail.com... more

How are you all? We were at the sweetest wedding, on a hilltop high in the Galil overlooking a beautiful valley. All family. Today, Yad Mordecai. Love lovev love. Mommy and Daddy are SOOOOOO beautiful. Daddy loves swimming in the waves, and I love the morning cuggles.







Sunday, October 19, Yad Mordecai, Kutzi, bees, kibbutz of yesteryear, the border of Gaza, the graves of Golda and Moshe. Supper with Shlomit and Dani and family.



Monday, October 20. Netanya.

Tuesday, October 21. Ran Goshen took Mommy and Daddy to Caesaria. In the night, we joined thousands of people to dance with the Torah in Netanya’s city square, to wonderful Shlomo Carlebach music.



Simchat Torah:

Glimmers of forgotten learning

Surface

From Daddy’s youth:

“Breishis bara Elohim.”

What comes next?

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The last little bit of ice cream cone passes

from hand to hand,

each of us taking half.

Soon, a oneness that cannot be divided:

“Hey, you ate the whole thing!”



Wednesday, October 22. Tzfat, Tiveria, Galei Gil

Each time we drive past Megiddo

We remember

The end of days.

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The road to Tzfat

Winds

This way

That way

Look! Kinneret to your right.

Look! Kinneret to your left.

Look! Kinneret to your right.

It all depends

On where you are

Along the journey.

It all depends

On your point of you.

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Shir HaMaalot

A Song of Ascents.

On the road up to Tzfat

Mommy’s ears popped.

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“I’m not even short of breath”,

Realized Daddy

As we lifted ourselves

Higher and higher

to the elevated city.

Automatic steering

Makes the ascent a breeze.

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A woman

along the narrow stone roads

of Tzfat

does not quite touch the ground.

“A trip”, she calls it here,

and we begin

to understand this place.

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Daddy doesn’t believe my translation

Of a prayer stuck with masking tape

At the WC in Tiveria.

We actually give our thanks

That our plumbing is working,

That what needs to be closed

Is closed,

And what needs to be open,

Is open.

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What a gorgeous day Mommy and Daddy and I had in Tzfat today! Learning and exploring and delighting in fresh squeezed pomegranate juice, grapes from the vines, the blue ceiling of the Caro synagogue, all those little stone alleyways and art shops, Daddy's fascination with the Asher Bara taped with masking tape outside of the WC. Chalulim Chalulim. Supper at a table right beside Kinneret. Daddy and Mommy falling in love with each other beside the sea. So lovely. Love to you all!

By the Sea of Galilee

a young couple kiss.

No time travel is needed,

no walking on water.

Mommy and Daddy, a young couple in love.

Here, Now,

Sweet.



In the car’s back seat

I overhear young Murray

Saying, in love,

“You gonna stick with me kid?”

She says Yes.

Our restaurant table

Is so close to the sea

Supper jumps onto our plates.

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At our table

by the sea of Galilee

the waiter turns Mommy’s fish

into a butterfly

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Lightning in the night sky

on our way home from Tzfat

is physical,

explainable,

This world.

Actually, we have quiet moments. Daddy watches the fish for hours, Mommy checks to see that they're breathing. We sip our Turkish coffee under the mango trees and watch the waves. Beno's digging a hole now so Daddy can plant an orange tree when they get back from Caesarea . They are very beautiful. What a treasure of a time, and what learning! Love you all.

Mommy and Daddy are incredible. So curious, so ready to experience the tastes and smells. A beautiful rest night, just us, with guitar and songs and long enough time to watch the anemone and clownfish dance their slow pulsing duet.

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If you stay still long enough

and watch

you can see the anemone

change its place.

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My Mommy tiptoes in the night

To check if the fish are breathing

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Thursday, October 23. Shuk haPishpishim, the funny flea market of old Yafo.
Supper in the garden, a preview for Japan : Shabu Shabu.
Friday, October 24. Zichron Yaacov, met Yossi and shared apple strudel and cheesecake at Motek.
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Sea bream by the yachts in the windy night at Herzliya marina, then Julian Bream’s guitar in the car on the way home.

What’s the name of this fish?

Bream.

Who’s playing that lovely guitar?

Bream.

Quite a talented fish.
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Just about constant:

Mommy up early and smiley to check the fish, then to the greenapple kitchen for a quick cup of cold coffee and a bite.

Daddy up, and a leisurely Turkish coffee in the sunny garden, mango trees, lemon trees, conversation. Beside us, the sea.

A trip, and so much learning in the car.

A shared sunset for Mommy and me.

Much ado about getting photos onto the flashdrive.

And so to sleep.
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The days spark

With entertaining stories

And learning.

But early quiet mornings,

Just Mommy and I,

Like our ancient mothers at the well

share simple timeless

WomanWisdom.
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Flashdrive

My Daddy

May or may not be

A man of faith.

He knows for certain

That he must

put all memories

on his flashdrive.

The ritual entrusts eternity

to something outside of ourselves.

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Having lost a video

Or misplaced it

In Babel ’s library,

Daddy declares we should never break

Routine.

And yet, so many of his stories

Celebrate the unexpected:

Turkish delight is larger,

Mutton is tastier,

A man on Victoria ’s street corner

Is family,

Because you broke routine.

That’s why the chicken crossed the street!
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And the waves will still be waving

When we’re gone

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Beno's Sushi Artistry




 
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You can't get it here, so Beno makes it. Who are the zen guys who spend a day crafting an intricate sand mandala, only to see it blown by the wind to plain old sand at sunset? I always wondered how Splendour and Humility could exist as one trait.
Sushi rolls
Intricate mandalas, fish, colour
Pop!
Gone

Friday, May 22, 2009

Fractal, Like the Geometry of Clouds

"The whole moon and the entire sky are reflected in one dewdrop on the grass." Dogen
In one small moment, we see the workings of the universe.
"Speaking loosely without technical terms such as hausdorff-Besicovitch dimension, a fractal, coined by Mandelbrot in 1975, is a geometric pattern that is self-similar, i.e. if we zoom in on a small portion of the pattern we find a figue that is similar to a larger portion of the original image. nature is filled with fractals as seen in such objects as mountains, shorelines, trees, ferns, fluid flow patterns, and cloud formations (with or without lightning)"
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Adam used the phrase, "They didn't plan it well. They didn't plan it at all." It seemed a little dumb to him that he would be on leave, and have to get back into uniform and guard at some ceremony or other. In fact, another guy was told to do it, and complained so much that Adam offered to trade the job with him. Fine, so he went. He arrived at the place, and heard a voice, "Hi Adam!". It was his cousin Nissim,(son of Adam's grandmother Rachel's sister). Nissim had received shrapnel in the leg a few years ago in Lebanon, and this turned out to be a ceremony honouring soldiers who were wounded. In fact, the main group being honoured were Adam's cousin's unit. Adam made a quick phone call to tell me, "Now I know why I'm here".
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A small dewdrop of a moment, but the geometry of the moment is the geometry of all things. We don't get it, it makes no sense, and something happens, and "Now I know why I'm here".

Saturday, May 16, 2009

 
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An Equal and Opposite Poem

Could it be that for every poem there is an equal and opposite poem? And could it be that we, ideally, live in the balance, the teeter totter, the pendulum dance, the mother's rocking, cradling arms, of both poems? Back and forth, back and forth, back and forth?
Let's try it. To balance
"Do not go gentle into that good night
But rage, rage against the dying of the light",
we have Robert Frost's lovely:
"Acceptance
When the spent sun throws up its rays on cloud
And goes down burning into the gulf below,
No voice in nature is heard to cry aloud
At what has happened. Birds, at least must know
It is the change to darkness in the sky.
Murmuring something quiet in her breast,
One bird begins to close a faded eye;
Or overtaken too far from his nest,
Hurrying low above the grove, some waif
Swoops just in time to his remembered tree.
At most he thinks or twitters softly, 'Safe!
Now let the night be dark for all of me.
Let the night bee too dark for me to see
Into the future. Let what will be, be."

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Open Open to the Song



Just open the door, open, and let the goodness in. I wondered what I would do here in Israel, wandered around a little, put out a few email feelers. I got a call from a family right around the corner from me. Their sweet little 3 year old boy has such severe apraxia,(motor planning difficulty), he wasn't even saying Eema yet. Not even Aba. No bilabials, the lips-together sounds. Just suckle and vocalize at the same time, if you're neurotypical, and you make those sounds. Well, this little boy is now saying "Aba, Bo!" (Come here, Dad), and singing along to "To Dod Moshe there was a farm EIEIO". Okay, he says the "O" part. But we're all dazzled at his progress. So now I have a little boy coming to me from near Haifa, and two others in Zichron Yaacov, and I had a call today from a mom way up in the north of the country. And these are kids who already go to speech therapists in their home towns. They want to travel to me, because they hear about how I am with the kids. All by word of mouth in this small, talkative country that is really just one family. Seems I'm the one in these parts who gets right into mouths, squeezes lips together, and gets kids talking. Okay, now it's begun. Now I have to live up to this little glimpse of promise people are feeling. A door has been open to me, and now it's up to me to believe in myself and to walk through it, be what I can be here in Israel, a place where the grownups need to learn to talk to one another. Next comes learning to listen.
Oh, and this beautiful thing, just in from Deepak Chopra:
The Essential Ingredients of Mind-Body Health

The assumption that healthy people are just lucky, have good genes, or practice preventive medicine is no more than a half-truth. The healthiest people in our society – meaning those who avoid catastrophic disease and live to a happy old age without any major debilitating illnesses – fall into a different profile. According to current medical understanding, here are the essential ingredients of mind-body health:

1) Emotional adaptability. This is the single most important factor in staying well and living long. It’s the ability to let go and remain open to change. Everyone suffers losses and setbacks, but some get stuck in their pain, storing emotional toxicity or ama that contributes to imbalance and illness. Fortunately, emotional resilience is a quality that we can develop in ourselves. For those struggling with emotional pain, the Healing the Heart and Emotional Freedom programs offer a powerful process for releasing the past and reclaiming emotional balance and wholeness.

2) Good coping mechanisms. There are two ways to cope with life’s uncertainty: acceptance and resistance. Acceptance is allowing events to unfold around you and reacting to them spontaneously, while resistance is fighting against the natural force of evolution. Nature will ultimately win, and our struggle against the river of life creates a lot of wear and tear on our body and accelerates the aging process. Cultivating acceptance is a powerful coping skill that doesn’t imply being passive or letting go of desire; it is actively practicing the Law of Detachment, which is based on an unwavering belief in the power of your true Self. Learn more about the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success at the Seduction of Spirit retreat.

3) Self-empowerment. Numerous studies show that people who feel victimized or out of control are at higher risk for physical and emotional illness. Those who constantly feel like a victim of life make the mistake of false identification: They see themselves as limited and isolated, not realizing that our essential nature is pure potentiality.

4) Stress reduction. Stress exacts an enormous toll on our mental and physical health, including high blood pressure, heart disease, stomach ulcers, cancer, insomnia, depression, and autoimmune diseases. While many claim to thrive under pressure, no one maintains health and well-being in the face of constant long-term stress.

One of the most effective stress relief tools we have is meditation. When we meditate, our breathing slows, blood pressure decreases, and stress hormone levels fall. Beyond these significant health benefits, the greatest gift of meditation is the sense of calm and inner peace it brings into your daily life.

5) Feeling loved, wanted, and useful. All three are necessary for optimal health, and the healthiest people make choices to maximize their experience of these positive qualities. In fact, emotional deprivation is as unhealthy as a lack of good food, essential vitamins, and adequate sleep.

If someone were to come to me for a physical exam, I'd certainly comply, but before they left I would do everything possible to put them on the right track to optimal health, which has little to do with doctors and everything to do with self-awareness and balance.

Love,
Deepak