Wednesday, April 29, 2009

The firewords at Mount Sinai



An amazing cycle of holidays plays itself out between Pesach and Shavuot. Overlaid upon our ancient journey from slavery to the fireworks at Sinai, we have a modern journey: the still bleeding wound of Holocaust Rememberance Day, which we celebrated at Kibbutz Yad Mordecai as Yom Zikaron l'Shoah u l'Gvura, the remembrance both of the Holocaust and of the Uprising. Mordecai Anelewich (leader of the Warsaw Ghetto Uprising: the kibbutz is named for him) himself stands defiant, triumphant, in sculpture over the whole heartwrenching ceremony. He died with a sense of glory, triumphing in the fact that his people had risen to fight. The words, "L'Olam lo od", Never Again, mean "Never again will the people of Israel be without a powerful army to defend themselves." Hayalim climb to the monument, to the blast of loud, wailing shofars in the night. And then we have a separate day to remember the soldiers who fell defending modern Israel. Very hard. Sirens sound and the entire country stands utterly still, cars stopped on the highway and everyone getting out and standing still, silent, solemn. At precisely eight o'clock in the evening, all over the land, the weeping suddenly transforms into joyous fireworks, dance, song, a boundless all night celebration of the miracle, the State of Israel.

Saturday, April 18, 2009

First, the Beauty

Why plant bouganvilleas on the roof today, I thought to myself. This is the time to do more serious things. And then I recalled the story of Fania, in the book about Kibbutz Yad Mordecai. I am dazzled to discover what I always really knew, that Mommy's Uncle Moshe and Aunt Golda from Poland first started their kibbutz right here in Netanya, by the sea. A woman in their group, Fania, was assigned the job of making it beautiful. Some of the early kibbutzniks poo pooed the idea of flowers as too bourgeous, too frivolous at a time when basic sustenance and self defense were priorities. Fania knew that beauty does not wait. You weave beauty, now, through your work and your worry and your saving up for better times. Beauty's time is Now.

Friday, April 17, 2009

What if all of our firm action came of love.

This is an incredible week in the counting of the Omer. This week is gevurah, discipline, holding back, firmness. Today is chesed in gevurah. What is all the firm action we took came from love, from trust, from hope?
Week Two - Gevurah

If love (chesed) is the bedrock of human expression, discipline (gevurah) is the channels through which we express love. It gives our life and love direction and focus. Take a laser beam: Its potency lies in the focus and concentration of light in one direction rather than fragmented light beams dispersed in all different directions.

Gevurah - discipline and measure - concentrates and directs our efforts, our love in the proper directions. Another aspect of gevurah is - respect and awe. Healthy love requires respect for the one you love.


Day One of Week 2 (8th day of Omer):
Chesed of Gevurah

The underlying intention and motive in discipline is love. Why do we measure our behavior, why do we establish standards and expect people to live up to them - only because of love. Even judgement of the guilty is only to express love. In other words punishment is not vengeance; it is just another way to express love by cleansing anything antithetical to love. Tolerance of people should never be confused with tolerance of their behavior. On the contrary: love for people includes wanting them to be the best they can and therefore helping them be aware of anything less than perfect behavior.

Chesed of gevurah is the love in discipline; awareness of the intrinsic love that feeds discipline and judgement. It is the recognition that your personal discipline and the discipline you expect of others is only an expression of love. And that comes across when disciplining. It is the understanding that we have no right to judge others; we have a right only to love them and that includes wanting them to be their best.

Ask yourself: when I judge and criticize another is it in any way tinged with any of my own contempt and irritation? Is there any hidden satisfaction in his failure? Or is it only out of love for the other?

Exercise for the day: Before you criticize someone today think twice if it is out of care and love.

Monday, April 13, 2009

There is nothing in the world that can ever change my love



So our family kibbutz, Yad Mordecai, began right here in Netanya. Here are Shlomit Karmi and I at the water tower of the original kibbutz, just a way along the beach from our house.
Day Four: Netzach of Chesed

Is my love enduring? Does it withstand challenges and setbacks? Ups and downs of life. How much am I ready to fight for the love I have? Does my love have spirit and valor?

Exercise for the day: Do something that takes fight for a loved one.